Editing Rant: Unwavering Support Trope

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Within military science fiction and military romance and military fantasy, and well everywhere, is the trope of a woman standing by her man with great understanding. She knows he has “Gone Through It” (Trademark) and quietly supports him through everything – whether him blowing up in anger or never expressing his softer feelings because of his trauma.

He never has to apologize.

She is a saint for this.

And yet … and yet. If the Understanding Woman makes a mistake or the Damaged Man misinterprets something, she must apologize and go through the obstacle course he puts in her way.

He never has to understand her, because she understands him. She gives everything.

I would like to see this trope start working its way out of our collective consciousness. It isn’t that those who stand between us and darkness shouldn’t get special treatment, but that the special treatment should be in the way of therapy, not the privilege of damaging their loved ones.

Special treatment should be in the way of therapy, not the privilege of damaging their loved ones.

Especially if the author is writing science fiction where the dream of amazing therapy is available.

It is time to do away with the martyrs on both sides of the damage. Adults need to apologize and work toward their healing, whether the Damaged Warrior or the Understanding Loving One.

No one should accept anger without an active change in behavior to prevent future woundings of the relationship. If you love someone, remember to say it, show it, share it, not just take it.

While not a toxic trope as yet, without changing with the times, the Unwavering Support is damaging both to those wounded and those supporting the walking wounded. One of the places we, as writers and editors, can help society is changing the dynamic of this trope by including in the Unwavering Support driving to therapy, supporting roleplay to relearn emotional skills, and setting up clear borders to develop a healthy relationship.

Book Review (SERIES): The Boar King’s Honor

A wonderful historic fantasy romance series, following a cursed family line through time, skip-stone hopping from the early modern period of the 1700s, touching on the Regency period, and finally landing in the 1940s. Written by the very talented Nancy Northcott.

The Boar King’s Honor by Nancy Northcott

  1. The Herald of Day
  2. The Steel Rose
  3. The King’s Champion

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BOOK BLURB ON AMAZON for THE HERALD OF DAY

A wizard’s fatal mistake
A king wrongly blamed for murder
A bloodline cursed until they clear the king’s name

In 17th-century England, witchcraft is a hanging offense. Tavern maid Miranda Willoughby hides her magical gifts until terrifying visions compel her to seek the aid of a stranger, Richard Mainwaring, to interpret them. A powerful wizard, he sees her summons as a chance for redemption. He bears a curse because an ancestor unwittingly helped murder the two royal children known as the Princes in the Tower, and her message uses symbols related to those murders.

Miranda’s visions reveal that someone has altered history, spreading famine, plague, and tyranny across the land. The quest to restore the timeline takes her and Richard from the glittering court of Charles II to a shadowy realm between life and death, where they must battle the most powerful wizard in generations with the fate of all England at stake.

MY REVIEW for THE HERALD OF DAY

Paranormal romance. Historical Urban Fantasy. Illuminati level behind the scenes magic. Political intrigue. Class discussion. Courtly love. Ghosts. Curses. Illusions.

Nancy Northcott has created a magical world in England about a cursed noble family summoned by a scullery maid to defeat a time-traveling wizard who hides in the death world on one hand and the class-divide overcome-by-love slow-burn between the head of the noble house and the magic-wielding servant on the other.

Come for the magic, stay for the love. Come for the historical romance, stay for the vivid wizard duel in the ghost realm. The Herald of Day is the best of both worlds. (Fully – I got chocolate with my peanut butter, and maybe a bit of hazelnut too – type of vibe.)

 

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A wizard’s misplaced trust
A king wrongly blamed for murder
A bloodline cursed until they clear the king’s name

Amelia Mainwaring, a magically Gifted seer, is desperate to rescue the souls of her dead father and brother, who are trapped in a shadowy, wraith-filled land between life and death as the latest victims of their family curse. Lifting the curse requires clearing the name of King Richard III, who was wrongly accused of his nephews’ murder because of a mistake made by Amelia’s ancestor.

MY REVIEW for THE STEEL ROSE

I’m merrily reading historical magical fantasy, with Seers and Dragons (so far illusions in the Boar’s King Honor series) and Villains and Elves (different series – the Wolf and the Nun by Emily Leverett), against the backdrop of real history -and then hit this gem. Yes, it is historical fantasy, but it is also a full-blown Regency Romance too!

A second-chance romance where Amelia (a Seer) and Julian (the leader of the Merlin Club) don’t trust love after losing their first spouses to disease and infidelity. A political thriller when Napoleon’s return from exile brings another war to loom over Britain. A magical mystery investigating an ancient blood curse. All in the goodness of a Regency setting.

Each book of the series works as a stand-alone, but they also build in time-order as one expects of history. On to book 3!

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American reporter Kate Shaw and English Major Sebastian Mainwaring clash from the moment they meet on the beach at Dover. Kate has just escaped the hellscape of Dunkirk with a troop of English soldiers when Sebastian turns up, seizes her camera, and refuses to give it back. Kate needs the photos inside to prove to her boss back home that England’s fight against Hitler is a story worth covering and that she, woman or not, is the reporter to write it. Sebastian sympathizes, but controlling information about the war is his job.

Then Sebastian discovers that he and this infuriating American have a deeper connection and a mutual strength that could turn the tide of the war. Like Sebastian, Kate is a descendant of the Mainwaring line of powerful English wizards. Adopted at birth, she is Sebastian’s distant cousin. But unlike Sebastian, she has never known her miraculous flashes of “intuition” are something much more. She’s a practical farm girl who thinks magic is a fairy tale. Somehow Sebastian has to convince her to acknowledge and develop her gifts so together they can save the world.

The King’s Champion concludes Nancy’s Northcott’s exciting Boar King Trilogy.

MY REVIEW for THE KING’S CHAMPION

Each book of the series became progressively harder to read, not because of the Fantasy (wonderful magic world-building) or Romance (each of the couples are wonderful combinations of duty and devotion), but because the History keeps moving forward to our present times and mirrors today’s problems and battles closer and closer.

Early modern history in the 1700s – lovely. Regency romance dealing with the Napoleonic wars, with a charismatic despot gathering a following, much harder. And finishing book three on April 15, 2025, a story set in World War Two, rising against Hitler, the fall of France, watching rationing cutting into day-to-day life, and London being bombed – well, that was devastating. How are we letting the trains run again? History tells us where all this leads.

This wonderful historic fantasy romance didn’t provide an escape from reality for me, though it might for some. And, hopefully, it will easily provide enjoyment in the future. Well researched, a good ending for the series and also works as a stand-alone. Published in 2023 (and likely written in 2022), the author did a wonderful job for the time she was living in.

The strong female character, Kate, is an American war correspondent, or trying to be. Her bosses are extremely worried about a “girl” in the war zone. The male lead served in the military but has become disabled from a war injury. Together they must solve overcome pain and family expectations, support Britain in a time of war, resolve an ancient family curse, and, maybe, fall in love.

Flash: The Back Room Part 3

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When the landlord closed the door behind him, hiding the Back Room from the mayhem of the harvest festival overflow happening in the front, Nigel jumped out of his seat and took a few steps over the Ashall woolen knotted carpet likely brought across the ocean on a Zeriff ship. “No, we should—”

“No?” Matthews firmly interrupted, pulling the younger man up short, like he was a squire again. “My lands, Sir.”

“Yes, your Grace.” Nigel froze his movement, perhaps for the first time since his horse arrived three hours ago, dropping his eyes to his boots in a short nod. “My apologies.”

“Apologies are only worth their weight in adjustment of behavior.”

“Yes, your Grace.” Nigel widened his stance, properly bowing his head and clasping his hands behind his back. Many a time he had heard those words, and he knew Matthews would accept only one response. “How may I amend my discourtesy?”

Waiting, the young man felt the stare on his head, like a sword across the neck, even though his old knight never rose from his chair. Behind him, he heard silks and cottons rustle. Heat rose up his neck, the blush fortunately hidden under his carvat and the high neck of this riding jacket. To be corrected in front of a peasant! Worse, to DESERVE to be corrected.

“Help the Mistress remove her boots.” Matthews ordered. “I know I taught you how to properly care for the boots and blisters of a hard march. Dismissed.”

Nigel flinched at the emotional emptiness of the last word. He hated that desolation of emotions while in the field at age ten, he hated it now, fourteen years later. And he hated himself for mastering the same tone shortly after he was knighted at seventeen when he needed the tent cleared and the men of his unit to be about their business. He had hoped his fighting years were behind him after he served the required ten years Jackel demanded, but with the recall to family lands, he knew family requirements would again burden his shoulders.

He spun neatly to see the woman had raised her skirts to her knees, the clay from the hems flaking off either side onto the towels laid out by the keep’s sons. The clay caked the boots over the foot laces and up to the third of four buckles on the calves. Streaks of mud disappeared into the fabric hiding her thighs. The Crew of Crew, Zeriff’shaZeriff, whatever her real name was, attempted with shaking fingers to unbuckle the top right buckle.

Her head tilted slightly up to glare at him. Daring him to come closer, the poison in her eyes hidden behind the veil. “Your Grace,” her travel roughened voice whispered from her precarious position, “I couldn’t … wouldn’t presume.”

“Please Mistress,” Matthews smooth voice gave no hint of shouting orders at troops for thirty years, before Jackel had let his uncle retire shortly after Nigel’s officer ceremony. “I assure you, my ex-ward is well-versed in bandaging wounded feet. If you are to get to Blackstone, you have another two days travel, four maybe even five if you rejoin your caravan, depending on how many gifts your country has sent for the royal wedding.”

Nigel watched her shoulders sag within the Kylar bodice; it lacked the shoulder padding found in the Mysentte fashion. He vastly preferred the Kylar fashion for the mobility allowed both men and women, and for the thinner tops in the warmer climate. Some fabric worn by the matriarchs was thin to the point of being translucent under the netted supporting bodice.

“Very well,” she said. For the first time, she turned her head completely to Nigel. “Thank you. Lesh modula ever.”

Ma’ke.” Nigel responded as he sunk to his knees upon the towels. He moved the bowl of water aside, to better access the boots. Up close, as he worked the soaked and stretched buckles loose, he noticed how the boniness of her knees, the lack of imprint or dye painting on the boots, and the mud coating the underlayers of her skirts.

Had she hike the outer layers over her head, or removed them entirely until she had reached the outskirts of Climb’s Start.

When the fourth buckle gave way, he pulled the top apart, widening it, revealing a ring of blisters around the top of her calf where the wet leather had rested. Assessment of the layers of mud covering the laces on the bottom had him reaching for the top towel of the pile left by the keep’s family. After wetting it in the bowl, he started wiping the clay away.

Nigel felt remorse for judging the woman so harshly. No harrigan would have walked herself to blisters and her gloves to shreds to prevent her horse from getting a split hoof after it threw a shoe as she guided it through a foreign country. Lesson number a hundred and fifty on the subject of never make assumptions. Someday he will learn it.

He heard the innkeep come in with their food, the woman thanked the keep for the heated spiced wine and the small basket of broken bread and cheese as he placed it on the settee beside her. She nibbled small bits from the basket by burrowing a hand under her veil and getting the food to her mouth. She left the mulled wine on the table Matthews had been keeping his books. Over his head, once the food had arrived, the Zeriff asked Matthews what Blackstone was like and if he knew any of the wedding plans.

Did Matthews know about the wedding plans? Nigel snorted as the polite discussion continued. She sidestepped Matthews’ first questions about the largesse within the bride gifts her country was sending to the royal wedding. Surprise for the crown and safety for the travel were her excuses. Blackstone, being the winter castle for the kingdom had fewer visitors than Redstone, but still had few political secrets to hide, ended up being the least fraught topic they settled on. Searching questions about the gardens, mountain roads to there, and how the split of the castle worked for both guests and hosts for the genders, kept the conversation light, yet meaningful.

After clearing enough of the mud to untie the boot lacing across the top of the inset on both the boots and getting the left boot unbuckled, he slipped the left one off first since that was the one he had in hand, to find a not quite emaciated leg, much much thinner than legs of the court ladies Nigel had the pleasure being close enough to view.  Rashes, ulcers, and blisters furthered marred his favorite body part to have wrapped around his waist. Arm hugs came a close second. A rolled down, scrunched sock, silk, not thick wool, dyed in a mix of dark and bright red liquid clung around her toes. The boot sloshed.

He poured the noxious mix of leather-spoiled water, sweat, blister fluid, and blood into the bucket, then worked the second boot off. Zeriff’shaZeriff panted quietly above him to hold back a moan.

Looking up, Nigel finally caught a clear view of her eyes. Bloodshot from pain, the brown held a golden undertone. Too much yellow to be anything but magic, but a woman powerful enough to travel on her own would be expected to hold some. Not a full green, as was the case of most of the females chosen for the Roadsky Queens, nor the gold of the most powerful witches, but enough undertones to lead a caravan of merchants delivering a bridal gift to a royal wedding from a pirate kingdom.

No man had yellow in his eyes, nor green. Nigel’s were pure blue, like his brothers and his father.

He wanted to paint those eyes and lost himself in the gradations of color, somehow enhanced rather than spoiled by the tired bloodshot color of what was normally white. His fingers twitched on leather, wanting a palette and brush instead.

“Add about half the tea leaves and marigold flowers, and a quarter of the salt to the water.”

“What, huh?”

The woman’s tired voice repeated instructions to prepare the water to cleanse wounds.

“Right.” Nigel said, setting aside the boot he had been holding.

(words 1,385; first published 2/13/2025)

The Back Room series

  1. The Back Room (1/19/2025)
  2. The Back Room Part 2 (2/2/2025)
  3. The Back Room Part 3 (2/9/2025)

Flash: The Back Room Part 2

 

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The woman folded her leather-gloved hands atop the silk pooled there from her veil and sat rigidly upon the settee Matthews vacated for her. She said not a word, though her eyes, the color uncertain in the shadows of the veil, studied them both. The Duke of Seaport walked to the second most comfortable seat in the room, close to the cracked window and the evening breeze, and sat, placing his pouch of books on the small table beside him.

Nigel waited as long as he could with his churning thoughts. She hadn’t given him any acknowledgement in the introduction. Did she actually think she outranked him? The innkeeper had given him a noble title, abet his lowest, but still it was a noble title and had introduced her as Mistress.

Her clothes. He quickly placed them as an amalgamation of the Zeriff, Kylan, and a half-dozen other minor countries which allowed their women to travel and operate as merchants, unlike Everdance, Middlelands, Disrave, and his own country of Roadsky where the only time the valuable females left their family estates was for marriage. The lack of clear nationality in the clothing matched the generic name of Zeriff’shaZeriff, Crew of the Crew. People of Zeriff identified themselves by their boats among themselves. “And what is your boat?” he blurted out.

She tilted her head, the veil fabric flowing over the Kylan-style bodice which complimented the two-tone skirts presently the rage in Mysentee. The choice of blue as the primary color was pure Zeriff though. On ships, they would wear every color they could trade or steal on the high seas, but ashore, they were blue in memory of the water surrounding their island chain.

“Where are your servants?” Nigel asked searching for a topic. “Shouldn’t they be back by now after taking your stuff to your room?”

“What my associate is asking is how much room do we need to make for your traveling companions?”

“I have no companions, your Grace.” Her voice creaked, guttering low, roughened by unknown sources.

Nigel jumped in, shocked. “None?”

Her head turned his way barely before her eyes dropped to her gloves, and she started pulling them off tips by tugging on the fingertips of her left glove with her right hand, ignoring him.

He was not used to being ignored. “None?” He repeated, taking a step her direction. “None?”

“Nigel, do not harass my guest, and find a seat for the gods’ sake.”

Continuing to tug at the sweat-tightened leather, the woman watched as he stomped across the room to high-back chair with the horsehair cushion. Of the five seats in the room, it lacked any semblance of comfort, but the dearth of arm rests allowed Nigel the ability to move freely. With the left glove plucked off, she worked on wiggling the other worn glove off. Nigel noticed the task was challenging because rips crisscrossing the palm; the gloves were effectively ruined. Once both were off, she tucked them into some of the bodice lacing. The Kylan tucked everything into the network of laces giving support to the bodices.

During Nigel’s time in Kylan, he had seen purses, letters, statues, charms, daggers, and a myriad of other items worked into the tops of the men and women. Gemstones were exceptionally popular, often threaded through the laces. This woman lacked any accoutrements as far as he could tell, other than the gloves, a rather poor merchant in his opinion.

“May I ask how you came to be traveling alone, Mistress?” The duke angled his body toward the invader of their privacy and leaned forward.

“Of course, your Grace.” If she had an accent, the roughness of her voice hid it. “My horse threw a shoe just outside of Crossroads,” she paused, moving her body carefully toward focusing on Matthews, “so I sent my party ahead, telling them I would catch up shortly. Little did I know the harvest meant the forge was cold and everyone was in the fields.”

Nigel was aghast. “You walked all the way here from the Crossroads?” Crossroads was an hour pushing on horseback, an hour and a half fast march.

“It’s not like I could ride Cotton,” she snapped, at last addressing him directly. The men watched as the veil pulled in toward her mouth, before she continued at a lower volume, her shoulders twisted, blocking Nigel out of the conversation. “You understand, your Grace, the road is paved the whole way, I would never abuse my animal thusly.”

“Admirable.” The Duke pulled at his calvary boots, indicating his understanding of how horses should be treated. “But I am surprised no one was here to greet you.”

“We are on a firm deadline, what with the marriage next week. The caravan leader rightly continued to push the carts ladened with the bridal gift as far as they could before stopping for the night. I should easily catch up with them as they climb the gap.”

“That is the truth,” Nigel said, trying to insert himself back into her notice, “carts are slow going up the mountain.”

“We also are traveling that way on the morrow. We could stay with you until meet with them,” the older man offered.

She laid her hand upon her chest. “Oh no, your Grace. I could not accept. The innkeep assured me that the forge here was just banked for the night and the blacksmith will take care of the reshoeing first thing in the morning,” she paused, “or whenever he recovered from tonight’s hangover enough to handle the banging. I could not ask you to wait.”

“No, no. I insist—”

Knocking on the Back Room door, quickly followed by a bevy of boys entering, their heights in staircase steps, looking remarkably like the Innkeeper except for the smallest, whose blond curls peaked over the towels he carried. The oldest bowed first to Nigel, then the Duke, and finally the female merchant. “Mistress, your bath water.”

“That was fast,” her voice laced with approval.

“We always have water heating for dishes.” The youth turned to his younger brothers. “Mag, close the window, Billy and Cruz lay out the towels so the water won’t splash.” He took the two pails of water from the younger boys had been carrying. “Mik, the bath.” The second smallest carefully placed a broad pottery bowl down and pushed it toward the Zeriff’s skirts, who lifted them at the knees, raising the muddy hems to reveal calvary boots similar to the ones both of the men wore, though much worse for wear than their shiny leather.

One of the pails filled the foot bath. “We will leave the pail if you need more water, and one to empty the water in when done. Here are the salts and herbs you asked for, and extra towels and bandages.”

“Bandages?” Nigel muttered, frowning. “Fuck.” He breathed. She had walked five miles in calvary boots, meant for riding, not walking.

As the boys began to leave, the Innkeeper returned. “Your Excellencies, your meals are coming out of the fire now. Is there anything else you need, mistress? Food, wine? I had the saddlebags taken upstairs.”

“No, no food, although some mulled wine would do me good. And I do apologize, Mr. Keeper, but now that I have had a chance to sit, I realize there is no way I will make it up those stairs tonight. Could you bring them down here? I can just sleep in the Back Room.”

“Mistress!” the man protested.

“I’ve slept in far worse conditions, I assure you.”

“Of course.” The innkeeper froze a moment, before turning to Matthews, “With your Grace’s permission, of course.”

“When we are done tonight and retire to our rooms, Mistress Zeriff’shaZeriff is welcome to use the Back for her rest.”

(words 1,300; first published 2/9/2025)

The Back Room series

  1. The Back Room (1/19/2025)
  2. The Back Room Part 2 (2/2/2025)
  3. The Back Room Part 3 (2/9/2025)