Flash: Exit Strategy

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I couldn’t take it anymore and left my private space to grab Xanadu’s alarm and turned it off. They may be my favorite American, but sometimes I could ring their neck. I have to bang the curtain surrounding her woodworking space to find the overlapping cloth entrance. The white kitchen timer was set on a stool near the passthrough.

“What, oh, was that ringing?” they asked, looking up from the ten-to-one ratio rat-inspired column they were carving for the Manyard building, red paint clinging above their left eyebrow. They had finished the last of the two-foot columns for the inside atrium Tuesday and painted them with the red lacquer substitute last night. Dabbing the splinters and sawdust away with a brownish washcloth, they revealed the hand-held foot-sized zodiac-inspired art had been roughed out since I left for work. Six of the eight outside columns were at the detail stage; only the rat and pig needed the initial rough-outs. They had chosen to do those last since they were the two center outside columns and would have the most traffic.

“For an hour.”

Xanadu laughed, “Surely not.”

“It’s seven-twenty.”

“Dinner!” They set down the toy column carefully, then jumped up and ran toward the kitchen.

I grabbed their shoulder as they ran past. “I’ll order pizza. No need for another meal with sawdust in it.”

“What? Are you sure?” Their eyes drifted back to the wood carving.

I squeezed their shoulder. “Yes, I’m sure. And, no, you are not going back to that until you take an hour break – your orders.”

They closed their eyes and nodded. “I forgot to eat lunch.”

“Then you are done for the day.”

“But—”

I held up a finger. “Your orders.”

“My work gets crappy without breaks.” They pouted, crossing their arms over their leather apron. “Fine, I’ll shower while you order. No pineapple.” They stomped off to our mutual bathroom.

***

Xanadu took the last pineapple slice, leaving the bacon and cheese pizza of the two-for-one deal untouched. Rolling their dark eyes as they bite in, “I forget how great warm pineapple tastes.”

I picked up the untouched pizza and put it in the fridge for tomorrow’s breakfast. One meal down and ready for when I take over kitchen duties tomorrow. Grabbing a washcloth, I wiped down the counter and the island for crumbs and sawdust settling out from the air. “So, I’ve been meaning to ask. Do you want to go to the November Lantern Festival again this year?”

“It happens the first week of November and it is September already. There is no way we could get a travel visa ready.”

“About that.” I moved over to our pile of mail and dig down a couple of days, dropping the political flyers and store advertisements into our recycling bucket at the end of the kitchenette island before I find the government envelope. “My family really would like to see me so they expedited things for us.” I wave the fat envelope.

“But the plane tickets will be crazy expensive this close.”

“Paid for.”

Their eyes narrowed, black eyeliner turning their eyes into slits. “What’s going on?”

“My parents would like me to be outside of America during the election,” I said tapping the envelope against my other hand.

“Why?”

Stopping the nervous tic, I gave them a look, tilting my head. We both grew up political brats.

“He isn’t going to win. There is no way he is going to win again.”

I raised my eyebrows.

“Sure he managed to stay out of prison so far, but there are still several court cases to go.”

I waited.

They sighed, “But even if he loses…”

“He’s promised chaos, refusing to accept the outcome if it goes against him.”

“That’s not just it, it can’t just be it.” They hopped off the stool and walked over to me and took the envelope out of my hands. “What else has your family heard?”

“Nothing they can share with me, but I am going home to keep them happy.” I shrugged. I may be a fighter of justice, but I wasn’t untouchable. “He promised to round up all the Chinese and illegal immigrants and put them in camps.”

“You are Korean, not Chinese. And on a permanent visa thanks to your family.”

“Like his followers can tell the difference between me and the Chinese.”

Xanadu ran rough fingers around the edges of the envelopes, switching to Korean to say, “The travel visa will only be good for a couple of weeks. What will we do then?”

“It’s a three-year work visa with exit and entry privileges. Father and older brother slid us in under the Manyard trade contract, since you are working for them.”

Frowning, they worked a finger into the envelope and opened it. “And how did they justify you?”

“Native son.”

They switched to American. “Right. Duh.” They unfolded the paperwork, being careful not to drop the visas while examining them. “It will take me away for the second round of project baseline work. But…” They handed the paperwork to me. “If he wins, then the only second round I will be dealing with is getting hauled off to those camps for some reeducation. I’m in.”

“Korea isn’t much better for accepting queerness.”

“Are they threatening camps? Do they have full-blown plans like Project 2025?”

“Not unless North Korea comes across the border.”

“Then we are all screwed. Everywhere.” They tossed the envelope and paperwork onto the island and stepped into my space to hold themselves against me. “How did it get so wrong?”

I hug them to my body. “I don’t know, my dragon, I don’t know.”

(946 words, first published 9/1/2024)

Capturing the Tiger and Dragon Series

  1. X is for Xenophile (4/28/2024)
  2. X is for Xylotomous (5/19/2024)
  3. X is for Xanthic (6/9/2024)
  4. Exhibit (7/14/24)
  5. Exit Strategy (9/1/2024)

Art: Political Memes

I recently stepped down as a Soil and Water Board member for my state. I ran for it because I believe more women should be on the ballot and I put my money where my mouth was (literally, did you know you have to pay to be put on the ballot?). I was rather shocked I won, but I finished serving my four years in the office.

My next political cause is getting minimum wage and tipped minimum wage raised a bit. For my state, $10 is the effective minimum wage – fast food can’t get people for less than that. So when I write letters, that is all I’m asking for. I’m writing a letter a week then personalizing them for my North Carolina House Representative, my NC Senate Legislator, my Federal NC House Representative, and my two Federal NC Senators. Plus I’m making a meme to post on Facebook.

Here is the pack so far:

 

And here are some political memes I’ve made previously, just in case you ever wonder where I stand on issues. Human Beings are Human Beings.

 

Geeking Science: Movements and the Second Follower


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It takes more than one to make a Movement.

It takes more than one to sustain a Movement.

It takes more than one to retain a Movement against the backwash of the status quo.

Why are we having to go through the sixties all over again? Fighting for women’s rights and black rights, only we are calling it #MeToo and #BLM now. Because society doesn’t change quickly, and unless someone is out front leading … and more importantly, other people are following, the movement will dissolve to statis. Inertia will ground it to a halt.

Remember it’s not just important to be a leader, but also be a follower. Supporters keep momentum going.

Really, the world undervalues followers. Everyone wants to be the person everyone is looking to, but that is not how to change the world. The leader is the one who creates a group that everyone then wants to join. A leader must have followers. A movement must have supporters – and they will range broadly from mindless hivemind followers and educated devotees.

Ms. Kellerman (2007) breaks followers into five groups by levels of engagement for business purposes:
1. Isolates – People who standby passively, supporting the status quo by inaction.
2. Bystanders – People who might get involved if their self-interest is invoked, and may show up at things if entertained and fed.
3. Participants – People engaged enough to devote time and money.
4. Activists – Heavily involved people, devoting significant money and energy to the process. Sharing the news and converting others.
5. Diehards – People so involved they cannot move their stance, and may turn on the leadership if they try to steer the ship away from where the diehards have decided it should go. These are both pro-whistle blowers protecting society and self-destructive fanatics destroying things for their ideal.

Examples in USA voters: isolates are non-voters, bystanders are voters who show up to vote only, participants attend some meetings and send money to a party or person and maybe put out a yard sign, activists organize the meetings and make sure handouts are available and go door-to-door and make phone calls, diehards refuse to accept the results of voting if it doesn’t go their way.

Ms. Kellerman’s study described in the Harvard Business review is interesting when focused on through the lens of today (the 2020s), looking back at the hope from fifteen years ago. To put the time-culture in perspective, the article is published 2007 (so most research was likely finished around 2006) and Facebook started in 2004. Around 2006, MySpace was the social media champ. The decentralization of subordinates from managers snowballed during the COVID Zoom era.

A second way to split up movement of leadership and followers is the Initiator. The person with the idea or action. Then First Follower. The person who thinks the “crazy” on their own isn’t as crazy, or maybe, their type of crazy. The Second Follower, well now with three, it’s a group. A movement can snowball from there when VISIBLE.

This video really captures the first crazy to the movement of a dancing mob of activist followers using their energy and time in the moment.

Now not everyone has the energy to be a full activist follower all the time for every cause they want to support. There is only so much “me” to go around, and only so much of “you” at any given moment. It’s okay to step forward and step back as needed.

I wish every movement was as fun and easy as a dance mob.

Instead, the leader-followers often put themselves and their families on the line by raising their hands. Sometimes they might not even comprehend just how big an impact they will play, or how quiet the world will be after they risk everything.

Four years after Brown vs. the Board of Education (1954), a woman was fired because she raised her hand at a PTA meeting for the segregated high school her children attended saying she wanted her children to have better foreign language offerings. She knew the school system had better offerings at the white school, because she worked as a cook there. The hand raise added her to a civil rights lawsuit against the obstructionist actions being taken by leader against the integration of the school system – and the school system did what systems do when the status quo is challenged. It squashed her. (McElhatton, 2018)

She survived, but many don’t.

Being a second follower is no joke.

It’s easy to hide in a mob.

It takes more than one to make a Movement.

It takes huge amounts of time and energy and resources to make lasting long-term change in society.

It takes making habits for the followers and have them do the habits every hour, every day, every year, and convince others to do them too.

“You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” (Mark 12:31, New King James Version)

Be a leader, be a first follower, be a second follower, be an activist and a diehard.

Civil Rights. Women’s Rights. Equal Rights. #MeToo #BLM #LGBTQ+

Whatever generation you are from – keep these movements going.

Meme created by Erin Penn

See also the Geeking Science: Bystander Effect (February 20, 2018).

Bibliography

eweket. “The Power of the Second Person.” December 5, 2012. https://eweket.wordpress.com/2012/12/05/the-power-of-the-second-person/ – last viewed 12/16/2022.

Kellerman, Barbara. “What Every Leader Needs to Know About Followers.” Harvard Business Review. December 2007. https://hbr.org/2007/12/what-every-leader-needs-to-know-about-followers – last viewed 12/16/2022.

Maryville University. “The Evolution of Social Media: How Did It Begin, and Where Could It Go Next?” (undated). https://online.maryville.edu/blog/evolution-social-media/ – last viewed 12/16/2022.

McElhatton, Jim. “A schools cook’s forgotten civil rights stand.” Alexandria Times. March 22, 2018. https://alextimes.com/2018/03/civilrightsstand/ – last viewed 12/16/2022.

Schramm, Joe. “Leadership From a Dancing Guy.” YouTube. May 2, 2012. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PAFq0UjhwM4 – last viewed 12/16/2022.

Blog: REFUSE

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Remembering September 11, 2001

You know what the terrorists wanted to do … to create fear, to make us look at every person which didn’t look exactly like us with suspicion, to retreat to our shores and not play the world game anymore. To stop being what many countries in the world aspired to. To stop trying to make ourselves better. To live in hate and fear, safe at home, but trembling.

I refuse.

I refuse to let them win.

 

I ran for office last year, because I refuse. I complemented a stranger on his durag yesterday, because I refuse. I donate to Kiva microlending, because I refuse. I will not be cowed. I will not hate. I will reach out a hand to those in need.

I will stand.

I will stand and take action for humanity.