Other Cool Blogs: Neil Gaiman May 12, 2017

“The impostor syndrome does not become you.”

Something I said recently to a fellow writer at a con – someone who had multiple publications in a variety of genres through large, small and self published means. He didn’t feel he had the right to speak about writing on a particular topic on a panel because he had only published one book in that genre and it was co-written.

The Imposture Syndrome eats at you as a writer or artist. “I’m not good enough.” “Everyone knows I am faking it.” “Why do people think I can ‘adult’ this?” “I didn’t learn this in school.” “I’ve only done it once.” … the list of the internalized dialogue goes on and on.

Thanks to our culture, it’s worse for women than men, but no one is safe. Even if you have been a published author for years and years. Even if you were the point of a very long spear of people getting you to a remote location.

Neil Gaiman’s anecdote really brings this home. You can find it at his blog here: May 12, 2017.

So when your impostor syndrome flairs up, remember the malady is common … and tell that inner voice it doesn’t become you.

Other Cool Blogs: Magical Words November 27, 2012

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The Perfection Myth

“I have to get this right.” How many times you have told yourself this as you revise your manuscript the 15th hundredth time? And we are just talking about the first page. You still haven’t written the second page.

Lucienne Diver gives some excellent advice on Magical Words of “Giving up on Perfect”.

Me. I like things right. A lot.

Learning having a thing “good enough to be right” does not mean “perfection” is still an ongoing lesson for me to master. As in perfect. Sigh.

At some point during our childhood we learn to color only inside the lines. Maybe Ms. Diver’s words can help you learn this lesson a bit faster than my long-time struggle. Link here: http://www.magicalwords.net/lucienne-diver/giving-up-on-perfect/

Other Cool Blogs: Magical Words February 17, 2016

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Replenish

This week’s other cool blogs postings from Magical Words returns to the incredible Tamsin Silver. (see other blog from her I commented on HERE)

This weeks blog is 
Hump-Day Help: Refill/Restore/Replenish. 


Very timely for me in the middle of tax season. I get an hour … yes one hour … of personal computer time per day right now. The other waking hours are one hour to get ready for work and the hour once home to pack for the next days work (lunch, layout clothes, shower, and the like) and an hour to wind down – not on the computer because that will not wind me down. On the weekends I get an extra hour each day, one for groceries and one for clothes. That is pretty much my life right now outside of work. Yes, I am working seven days a week and have been since January second.


Oh, and that one hour of computer time is devoted to keeping this blog running, keeping in touch with friends, dealing with bills, and the myriad of other obligations.


Any of it writing or creativity? Not really. And I am tired. Core-center through-and-through tired.


Ms. Silver hits it spot on. Take care of yourselves. It is necessary – as a writer, as an artist, as a human. Read the Magical Words blog – again the link is 
here. And go rest, refill, restore and replenish.


(And to all of you out there holding down two jobs AND raising kids – you people are amazing!)


WRITER’S & READING EXERCISE: Do one creative thing. Something that makes you smile with accomplishment once you are done.


(Addition from 2/25/2015 – 
Ms. Liana Brooks has an excellent addition to this discussion at http://lianabrooks.blogspot.com/2016/02/maslow-vs-deadline.html

I love Maslow’s pyramid of needs and this makes sooo much sense for writer’s block.)